THE ELECTRICIAN
Executive Producer and Host of Lovercall
THE ARCHITECT
Lovercall Producer
THE QUARTERBACK
Lovercall Host
Hello!
We are The Electrician, The Architect and The Quarterback: producers and hosts of the radio show Lovercall right here at Fredonia. Lovercall is an anonymous late-night talk show about love, relationships and more. Students who come on the show use a codename to protect their identities when discussing potentially personal topics, hence the codenames of the writers of this column.
“The Electrician” is a 21-year-old cisgender female student who uses she/her pronouns and is a senior at Fredonia.
“The Architect” is a 20-year-old cisgender male student who uses he/him pronouns and is a senior at Fredonia.
“The Quarterback” is a 19-year-old cisgender male student who uses he/him pronouns and is a sophomore at Fredonia.
On each episode, the hosts and guests of Lovercall participate in a variety of segments. The cast discusses a relevant news story, a date idea, a wacky game and a main topic for the episode.
Listeners also write into the show, either via Fredonia Radio’s Instagram, @fredonia_radio, on Yik Yak, or through the QR code provided in this column.
We typically answer the questions asked right here in this column, so be sure to look out for student stories and questions in future columns.
The show is now being streamed weekly on Wednesday nights from 10 p.m. to 12 a.m. on WDVL 89.5 on www.fredoniaradio.com.
This column runs in conjunction with Lovercall and can be found both in print and online at fredonialeader.org.
Date idea of the week
We hope to provide our fellow students with a fun and unique date idea in every column. These “date” ideas aren’t just for romantic partners — you could go with your friends, your classmates or you can even go solo for a fun activity in Fredonia.
This week, we here at Lovercall recommend getting together to look through old photos!
We think this can be a way to enhance your relationship on a much deeper, more personal level.
Oftentimes, people are embarrassed to look back at old pictures of themselves, but they find old pictures of their significant other to be super cute!
Hearing your partner call your younger self “adorable” sounds like an immediate boost to your self-confidence!
Our guests discussed that looking through old pictures is typically a date you’d only find in an already well-established couple, so anyone hoping to do this on a first date might be out of luck.
But, as we’ve discussed before, there are such things as “self dates”.
You can always look back through your old pictures by yourself as a way to see how much you’ve grown since then. That sounds like a great form of self-love, which we at Lovercall are always in full support of!
Lovercallers
We call those who reach out to us with stories about love, sex and relationships “Lovercallers.”
This week, we looked to the Google form for questions. We answered one from a Lovercaller going by the name of Yellowstone.
He asked, “I recently got broken up with, and it was quite sudden. My ex seemed to have taken the time to distance herself from the relationship before the breakup, but I had no clue it was coming. I haven’t talked to her since, it’s been over a month, and I feel like I still haven’t gotten closure from the relationship. What should I do to get closure from it all?”
Us at Lovercall gave Yellowstone the advice to take some time to himself.
Although you may still hold feelings for your ex, it seems that she has already moved on from you a while ago. And as hard as that is to hear, understanding that might help your closure a little.
It may seem cliche, but it’s important to take the time to focus on yourself and heal your own wounds, finding your own path to closure.
For everyone, this path is different.
Your closure might come in a couple weeks, months or even years. And maybe you find it through hobbies, digging yourself into academics, or something else.
But it will get better, and you have to trust that.
Struggles and effective communication around sex
On our Oct. 18 episode of Lovercall, we had a special guest on the show.
Erica Rose, a professional intimacy coach, joined the Lovercall crew to talk about love, sex and relationships.
As an intimacy coach, Rose was able to provide professional opinions and advice to both our guests and listeners.
Rose talked about several different topics throughout the episode, but one of the most important topics was the struggles and effective communication surrounding sex.
Sex is often seen as a taboo topic that can be hard for many couples and individuals alike to discuss.
We here at Lovercall, along with the help from Rose, created some ideas we think can help ease the tensions around discussing sex.
For couples looking to try something new in the bedroom, it helps to communicate your desires and apprehensions towards your partner before spicing things up in the bedroom.
Rose suggests doing a “red light, green light” game to help see what you and your partner are into.
This game lists several different things to try out when getting intimate, such as roleplaying.
Each partner will check off the things they like, and put an “x” through the things they do not like.
Then, the partners can trade lists and see what each other would be interested in trying when getting intimate.
If there are some similarities, partners then know what to try out and what each other are okay with doing.
This way, the conversation about trying new things can be had outside of the bedroom, avoiding any awkwardness while in the act.
It is extremely important to be completely clear and honest with your partner about what you are okay with and what you aren’t.
Nothing about sex or intimacy should be “embarrassing.” A true partner is one who understands the awkwardness of having sex and how vulnerable the exchange can be.
If something feels good for everyone, that’s great! It’s something to keep in mind for the future.
If something doesn’t, have a conversation about it, and be upfront about your feelings.
Your partner cannot read your mind, and you cannot read theirs.
Fostering a healthy environment to talk about sex is incredibly important to the health of a relationship.
For those not in a relationship, it is important to find a safe space or outlet in which you can talk about sex and your feelings towards the topic.
There are several communities around campus that would be more than willing to help, including writing into our column right here in The Leader or attending a STEPS event.
Alternatively, find a friend or family member you trust to talk about these things.
Friends who truly care about you will not judge you or make comments about your preferences.
While you can’t always see it, sexual support is all around.
Reducing the stigma about talking about sex is one of the reasons why we started Lovercolumn.
We believe that no one should feel insecure talking about sex, and frankly, there needs to be more education surrounding it.
Reach out!
Do you want to ask the authors of Lovercolumn a question? Do you need advice? Fill out the form by using this QR code.
Interested in being a guest on Lovercall? Email frs@fredonia.edu or visit Fredonia Radio Systems, located in McEwen Hall 115 and open Monday through Friday from 9 a.m. to 5 p.m.
“The Electrician,” “The Architect” and “The Quarterback” are members of Fredonia Radio Systems and are involved in the production of Lovercall.