THE QUARTERBACK
Executive Producer of Lovercall
THE MUSICIAN
Lovercall Producer
RADIO REBEL
Lovercall Producer
Hello!
We are The Quarterback, The Musician and Radio Rebel: producers and hosts of the radio show Lovercall, right here at Fredonia. Lovercall is an anonymous late-night talk show about love, relationships and more. Students who are guests on the show use codenames to protect their identities when discussing potentially personal topics, hence the codenames of the writers of this column. This is your reminder that none of the hosts or guests are professionals, and everything that is stated is based on personal experiences.
“The Quarterback” is a 20-year-old cisgender man who uses he/him pronouns and is a junior at Fredonia.
“The Musician” is a 22-year-old gender-fluid person who uses they/she pronouns and is a senior at Fredonia.
“Radio Rebel” is a 21-year-old transgender man who uses he/him pronouns and is a senior at Fredonia.
On each episode, the hosts and guests of Lovercall participate in a variety of segments. The cast discusses a relevant news story, a date idea, a wacky game and a main topic for the episode.
Listeners can submit their questions or seek advice either via Fredonia Radio’s Instagram, @fredonia_radio, on Yik Yak or through the QR code provided in this column.
We answer your questions live on the radio, then add them to this column in case you missed the episode.
The show will broadcast weekly throughout the semester on Wednesday nights from 10 p.m. to 12 a.m. on WDVL 89.5 on www.fredoniaradio.com.
This column runs in conjunction with Lovercall and can be found both in print and online at fredonialeader.org.
Date idea of the week
We hope to provide our fellow students with a fun and unique date idea in every episode. These date ideas aren’t just for romantic partners — you could go with your friends, classmates or can even go solo for a fun activity in Fredonia.
For this week’s date idea, we’re highlighting the “going solo” aspect of dates.
So, how about taking yourself out to dinner?
Some people believe that food is the way to a person’s heart, and the concept of a “comfort meal” was discussed on the show.
There’s no shame in having a nice meal all by yourself, whether you’re dining at a five-star restaurant or getting a grilled cheese from Cranston Marché.
However, you don’t have to go out to eat for this date idea.
You can also cook something for yourself in the comfort of your own kitchen.
Our guests went around the table and talked about their favorite meals to make for themselves, everything from grilled steak to alfredo pasta.
If you’ve ever wanted a romantic dinner but you’ve never had the chance to have it with another person, why not do it for yourself ?
You could even add other elements to your dining experience, like candlelight or background music.
This date idea is one that could look different for everyone, so have fun finding out what it might look like for you!
Self-Love
This week, our topic was self-love.
Our hosts and guests had a productive conversation about loving yourself, and riding the waves of the highs and lows that come with it.
In the episode, we played a self-love version of bingo, where every square on the bingo board had an affirmation.
If someone called bingo, they would read aloud what affirmations they liked best. Some of the affirmations were:
I can manifest joy
I deserve to succeed
I am healing gently
I forgive myself for my mistakes
Everything will be alright
I am beautiful inside and out
I am ready for change
If you want to play the self-love bingo game with a friend or two, the bingo sheets are posted on the main page of www.fredoniaradio.com.
So what exactly is self-love?
Self-love means to be patient with yourself, to accept yourself as you are and to be able to know yourself enough to adapt to situations.
Self-love is not something that can be learned overnight. It takes a lot of practice and self-care.
Self-care is a part of self-love, where you take care of yourself mentally and physically. However, it is not the same as self-love.
Self-love also includes grieving and healing. How we heal is a very slow and ever-changing process.
Many people try to rush the process or push it aside, but we at Lovercall feel that you need to take the healing process at your own pace.
While you take the time to heal, try some techniques to help ease the anxiety and self-doubt that comes with it. Some suggestions that were made during the episode were to be in nature, have a good comfort meal, listen to some music, lay on the floor or try some breathing techniques.
Being hard on yourself is good to an extent, but every living thing needs rest.
It’s okay to rest and take time for yourself, whether it feels like the correct thing to do or not.
Some points that were discussed are the Golden Rule, treating others how you want to be treated, versus the Platinum Rule, treating others the way they want to be treated.
One guest, McLovin’, stated his belief that not everyone wants to be treated the way you want to be.
Others felt that the Golden Rule is more about treating people with kindness and respect because that’s how you’d like to be treated, but what if someone felt they shouldn’t be treated that way?
The best thing to do is treat people with respect and kindness, no matter if you believe in the Golden Rule or the Platinum Rule.
Reach out!
Do you want to ask the authors of Lovercolumn a question? Do you need advice? Fill out the form by using this QR code.
Interested in being a guest on Lovercall? Email frs@fredonia. edu or visit Fredonia Radio Systems, located in McEwen Hall 115 and open Monday through Friday from 9 a.m. to 5 p.m.
“The Quarterback,” “The Musician” and “Radio Rebel” are members of Fredonia Radio Systems and are involved in the production of Lovercall.