THE QUARTERBACK
Executive Producer of Lovercall
THE MUSICIAN
Lovercall Producer
RADIO REBEL
Lovercall Producer
Hello!
We are The Quarterback, The Musician and Radio Rebel: producers and hosts of the radio show Lovercall, right here at Fredonia. Lovercall is an anonymous late-night talk show about love, relationships and more. Students who are guests on the show use codenames to protect their identities when discussing potentially personal topics, hence the codenames of the writers of this column. This is your reminder that none of the hosts or guests are professionals, and everything stated is based on personal experiences.
“The Quarterback” is a 20-year-old cisgender man who uses he/him pronouns and is a junior at Fredonia.
“The Musician” is a 22-year-old gender-fluid person who uses they/she pronouns and is a senior at Fredonia.
“Radio Rebel” is a 21-year-old transgender man who uses he/him pronouns and is a senior at Fredonia.
On each episode, the hosts and guests of Lovercall participate in a variety of segments. The cast discusses a relevant news story, a date idea, a wacky game and a main topic for the episode.
Listeners can submit their questions or seek advice either via Fredonia Radio’s Instagram, @fredonia_radio, on YikYak, or through the QR code provided in this column.
We answer your questions live on the radio, then add them to this column in case you missed the episode.
The show will broadcast weekly throughout the semester on Wednesday nights from 10 p.m. to 12 a.m. on WDVL 89.5 on www.fredoniaradio.com.
This column runs in conjunction with Lovercall and can be found in print and online at fredonialeader.org.
Date idea of the week
We hope to provide fellow students with a fun and unique date idea in every episode. These date ideas aren’t just for romantic partners — you could go with your friends, classmates or can even go solo for a fun activity in Fredonia.
For this week’s date idea, you’re going to turn back the clock and have a “first time do-over!”
What does that mean exactly?
A lot of people’s first sexual experiences aren’t all they’re cracked up to be.
In the movies and in books, it’s common to see people locking eyes from across the room, going into the bedroom completely enamored with each other and engaging in perfectly executed intercourse.
While the first one or two things might be true, the third is pretty difficult to get right on the first try.
For many people, the first time can be awkward or even painful.
This can be true for your first time with a new person, or your first time ever.
Even people in long, happy relationships likely started out with a first time that was less than ideal.
So, this date idea is here to change that!
The idea here is to recreate the circumstances of that time as best you can, whether that means wearing the same clothes, eating the same meal or whatever else.
Everything stays the same until you get to the bedroom — and that’s where your current experience and expertise come into play.
Now, instead of having a beautiful time end with something awkward, it can end with something truly special.
This date idea received mixed reviews from our panel of guests.
Some liked it, as it provided the opportunity to relive a fun memory and add some modern spark to it.
However, others preferred to look to the future in their relationship instead of living in the past.
However you feel about it, if you ever want to recapture the memory of your first time without repeating the awkwardness, then this date idea may be for you!
Sex Mythbusters
This week, in honor of April Fool’s, we took a look at some sexual myths that many people seem to believe.
We sought to address these myths and explain to our listeners why they are untrue.
Here are some of the major myths we talked about on the show:
- Your first time is always picturesque and perfect, just like the movies — FALSE. As we mentioned in our date idea, not only is it not always perfect, but it can sometimes be awkward or even painful.
- Waiting until you are an adult before losing your virginity isn’t normal — FALSE. There’s no right age to lose your virginity. Ideally, you should be sure you are fully ready before having sex for the first time.
- If your hymen is broken, that means you’ve had sex before — FALSE. This was commonly believed in many different cultures, including medieval Europe, but it is not true. In reality, the hymen can tear from a variety of different activities, including riding a bike or putting in a tampon. There is no accurate test to determine whether or not a person has ever had sex.
- You cannot or should not have sex while menstruating — FALSE. Actually, sex has been shown to help with periods in many who menstruate. In fact, sex has been linked to a higher release of stress and relief from menstrual cramps.
- If you’re concerned about contraception, you can use two condoms at once — FALSE. This is actually very dangerous, as it reduces the condom’s effectiveness and results in a higher chance of one or both of them tearing. If you want to “double up,” you can use multiple different forms of contraception at the same time, such as birth control and a condom.
- “Blue balls” are a made-up thing — FALSE. It’s real and it’s called epididymal hypertension, or discomfort/pain in the scrotum as a result of sexual arousal without reaching orgasm. While it’s not fun to experience, it is not dangerous and can be resolved either by reaching orgasm or just waiting it out.
- Asking for consent can ruin the mood — FALSE. There is no mood without consent. There is no anything without consent. Consent must be obtained before sex every single time, no ifs, ands or buts.
- If you masturbate too much, you can go blind or grow hair on the palm of your hand — FALSE. Believe it or not, people actually used to believe both of these myths. Your eyesight will be fine and your palm won’t grow hair no matter how much you pleasure yourself.
As you can see, there’s no shortage of myths and misconceptions revolving around sex.
To combat these, we at Lovercall are strong advocates for comprehensive sex education for everyone.
We also heavily support open and honest communication, especially as it relates to sex.
We talk a lot about the two Cs of Lovercall, which are consent and communication.
Consent is, of course, vital to sex. As mentioned previously, there is no sex without consent.
But communication is also crucial. There’s no way to know what your partner(s) may like or dislike without having an honest and clear discussion about it first.
These discussions can also help to dispel many of the myths about sex that people still believe today.
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Interested in being a guest on Lovercall? Email mvolz@fredonia.edu or visit Fredonia Radio Systems, located in McEwen Hall 115 and open Monday through Friday from 9 a.m. to 5 p.m.
“The Quarterback,” “The Musician” and “Radio Rebel” are members of Fredonia Radio Systems and are involved in the production of Lovercall.