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[OPINION] Lovercolumn: Keeping the Spark Alive

THE ELECTRICIAN

Executive Producer of Lovercall

THE ARCHITECT

Lovercall Producer 

THE QUARTERBACK

Lovercall Producer

Hello! 

We are The Electrician, The Architect and The Quarterback: producers and hosts of the radio show Lovercall right here at Fredonia. Lovercall is an anonymous late-night talk show about love, relationships and more. Students who come on the show use a codename to protect their identities when discussing potentially personal topics, hence the codenames of the writers of this column.

“The Electrician” is a 21-year-old cisgender female student who uses she/her pronouns and is a senior at Fredonia. 

“The Architect” is a 21-year-old cisgender male student who uses he/him pronouns and is a senior at Fredonia. 

“The Quarterback” is a 19-year-old cisgender male student who uses he/him pronouns and is a sophomore at Fredonia.

On each episode, the hosts and guests of Lovercall participate in a variety of segments. The cast discusses a relevant news story, a date idea, a wacky game and a main topic for the episode.

Listeners also write into the show, either via Fredonia Radio’s Instagram, @fredonia_radio, on Yik Yak or through the QR code provided in this column.  

We typically answer the questions asked right here in this column, so be sure to look out for student stories and questions in future columns. 

The show is now being streamed weekly on Wednesday nights from 10 p.m. to 12 a.m. on WDVL 89.5 on www.fredoniaradio.com. 

This column runs in conjunction with Lovercall and can be found both in print and online at fredonialeader.org

Date idea of the week

We hope to provide our fellow students with a fun and unique date idea in every column. These “date” ideas aren’t just for romantic partners — you could go with your friends, your classmates or you can even go solo for a fun activity in Fredonia.

This week, our recommendation is a bit unique: ax throwing!

Ax throwing is a somewhat new and off-the-wall activity that’s gaining lots of popularity.

If you’re looking for something to break up the monotony of everyday life, this might be the activity for you!

It can also be a really good way to get out any built-up frustration or aggression you might be feeling, similar to how you might scream into a pillow or lay a few haymakers on a punching bag.

Just make sure the ax is thrown at the wall … and NOT at your partner!

Keeping the spark alive

Our topic for this week was “Keeping the Spark Alive,” which can be a common struggle for people in long-term relationships.

Once the honeymoon phase and the excitement of a new commitment wear off, it’s typical for there to be a mutual feeling of, “Now what?”

We discussed a number of different ideas for you and your partner to keep your spark alive.

One idea we had is going on new dates. These could be things you’ve always wanted to try but have never done, or they could be completely new ideas that you and your partner might not have ever thought of.

This is where ax throwing could come in if that’s of interest to you!

We also talked about traveling with your partner, as there’s a sense of excitement that can come with going on an adventure.

You don’t even have to travel far if you don’t want to. There are plenty of places right here in Western New York that you and your partner may love!

Another idea we discussed was trying new things. 

Whether that’s trying out something different in the bedroom, or even just trying out a different activity together, doing something different can add a little fun and adventure to your relationship. 

Before you try anything new though, be sure to have a conversation with your partner about that new thing first, just to make sure you are both comfortable before you try anything different. 

We also recommend doing the small things in your relationship to keep that spark going. 

For example, you could write your partner a cute note and leave it in a place they’ll see it, or surprise them with flowers without any occasion. 

It could even be as simple as doing something for them, such as making the bed or helping them with a task. 

These little things help remind your partner that you care for each other, and small things can have a big impact! 

While this next piece of advice may sound counterintuitive, we recommend prioritizing your time alone, as well as time with your partner. 

Being together constantly can lead to those monotonous feelings, and in some cases, codependency. 

You want to ensure that you are able to be happy and confident with yourself, as well as with your partner. 

Finding that balance of alone time and together time is important not just for you, but also for your relationship. 

A final piece of advice we have is to communicate problems as they come up. 

While this seems obvious and is mentioned in almost every Lovercolumn, so many issues stem from partners not communicating effectively with each other. 

Sometimes, couples don’t even feel the need to communicate even small concerns to their partners.

If you are feeling a little stressed about something, or if you feel there is an issue in your relationship, we cannot stress discussing this with your partner enough. 

Long-term couples thrive when they are able to address each other’s worries and negative emotions. 

A couple who keeps the spark alive is one that communicates effectively and finds that understanding in each other. 

Reach out!

Do you want to ask the authors of Lovercolumn a question? Do you need advice? Fill out the form by using this QR code.

Interested in being a guest on Lovercall? Email frs@fredonia.edu or visit Fredonia Radio Systems, located in McEwen Hall 115 and open Monday through Friday from 9 a.m. to 5 p.m.

 “The Electrician,” “The Architect” and “The Quarterback”  are members of Fredonia Radio Systems and are involved in the production of Lovercall.
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